A question I’ve often been asked is “Cheryl, I’ve such a packed schedule, how do I create “me” time?” Well, my question back to you would be “why do you want to create “me” time, what is your reason for the “me” time?” if your “me” time is just there because you feel that you need to set time aside but you aren’t going to be doing things that will nourish you or renew you or give you new insight, then don’t have your “me” time. Watch this video as to why and how can you create “me” time that works for you.
“Me” time ideally should be something that gives back to you. As women we often give a lot to people around us and we deplete our own energies and our own resilience. The “me” time that you put aside should be one that excites you, that nourishes you, that replaces all of your creative energies that have been depleted. If that’s the reason, then watch this video as I share with you some of the ideas how you can create “me” time that works for you.
First of all, I want you to identify the five things that really excite you that you look forward to that at the end of that time you feel renewed, your energy is up and you feel engaged back with life again. Do you have five items? I’m not asking for a lot, just five to get you started so that you will feel the first steps of success.
Some of the individuals I worked with say my me time is just once a day, 25 minutes, sitting down and watching my Korean dramas. Some of you may ask what would that do for you? Well, for this particular lady it actually gives her an opportunity to get to know the culture she is very interested in, in terms of a career culture, the food type, and how the people interact with one another. At the end of it she feels refreshed and feels that is a great break. Her creative mind is engaged because she is just wondering what kind of dishes she can be cooking or what she can look forward to in her next travel to Korea. That is what nourishes her. What would nourish you and renew your energies and get you enthused with life once again? What are the five items? First thing is identify why you want to create me time. What are the five things the me time would really work to renew you and then next look at how you can make that into a reality.
One of the biggest practices we have seen that has worked for a lot of people, including myself, is the practice of block time. Not a new concept. Very often you hear me say it is common knowledge but not common practice. Block time simply means that you schedule things ahead of time and if you feel that me time is that important, then you have to schedule it. Put it down into your calendar, whether it is weekly, monthly or every 90 days. Every time you have a block time, think about what you would do. It could be just to take time out to go and visit the museums. Something that renews you. Block time serves another purpose because it tells you that is your me time. It also tells the people around you. That could be your co-workers, your family members, and if you have kids it’s a huge sign to the kids to say hey, mom’s out. That is your me time. You are showing them it is important to be spending time to be nourishing themselves. You can do that either by having it scheduled on your schedule, huge on your family’s schedule or just have a big sign. I have one entrepreneur who is a mom and she works from home. When it is her daily me time she just hands out a sign and says entrepreneur out. Basically that means it is her time out and nobody disturbs her, whether her co-workers, family members or children. That is the time she takes time out just to do things, take a break, get mind off things, unplug, renew her energy and nourish her inner being. Even if you’re often on business trips, schedule perhaps two hours where you can go visit a place of interest for you. Take a look at the museums, visit somewhere about the culture, something that is a break that reconnects you to yourself and gives you a renewal in energy.
The other practice we are seeing that has worked successfully for somebody who keeps telling me “I have no time to do all of this, I want to have my me time, I have no time to do all this.” Well, think of the strategy of bundling, very simply it means while you do something, do something else. While you drop the kids off for their classes, take time off for yourself. While you go grocery shopping and you are already out, do something else on the way. If you are on the way to get your groceries, on the way back instead of hitching a ride back with a cab, walk back, and your walk back is your own solitude time to reflect, think things through and reconnect with yourself. If you are dropping the kids off for whatever reason, think of it as a time to trigger yourself to do something else that is for you as your own me time. As simple as just sitting down quietly and having a cup of tea. It’s me time.
My challenge for you is to pro-actively create your own “me” and share with me what do you do (even it it’s nothing) and the effect “me” has on you.